A Tween Among Us
So I knew this day would come, but I didn’t expect it so soon. Daniel has turned into a tween (preteen) and seems to be picking up on a lot of things. I will admit, I was hoping that because of autism that this would be delayed. I know my social development during this time was slightly delayed by a year or two.
Daniel has his first crush, and is being influenced by media, and is showing his own personality. It’s an amazing to see this development and scary at the same time.
Today, he decided to take a picture of baby Olivia to post to Facebook. This isn’t something he would have thought to do even two years ago. He was taking a selfie which he subsequently deleted because he didn’t like it. This is a normal tween.
Why am I bringing this up? Well, you see, a couple of weeks ago I went up to the school for Stephen’s holiday party. And I watched as his aide in order to get him to work with his team on the activity I was directing put tape on his fingers. By the time she was done, his team had finished the activity. This is not a slight at Stephen because I know he was capable of helping his teammates. It’s about the aide treating him like he couldn’t.
As my children get older, I notice more and more how they are treated differently. It’s sad because as seen above, they just aren’t that different. They are developing right along with their peers, becoming who they are going to be. And we should be encouraging them and helping them to be the best people they can be. This means everyone they come into contact with. While most people aren’t going to treat them differently, it’s the people who are in their lives daily that affect them the most.
At home, we’re careful to treat them like regular boys. This is something we are going to have to work on as we move in with my mom next month to make sure this isn’t changed. And school, we will continue to push them.
In the meantime, I’m going to enjoy watching my boys develop their personalities and am excited to see what they become.