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8 months pregnant and Autistic

Published on May 29, 2014 By Melody
***Disclaimer: This may have some information that you don’t want to know about my pregnancy.***

I am just under 5 weeks from delivering Baby #3, Olivia. As an out autistic mother, I’ve been asked from time to time about my pregnancy experiences by autistic women who have wanted information on this life changing event. For the most part, I try to give honest answers. Well, today, for those who continue to be curious about this, I’m going to explain what’s going on that I think holds a unique challenge for autistic women.

I’m on day 5 of baby-movement-induced insomnia. This does not mean I haven’t been getting any sleep.… Read more.

The False Dichotomy – “High” and “Mid-to-Low” Functioning

Published on February 4, 2014 By Melody

I get to be reminded of this quite often. This false dichotomy between those with “high functioning autism” and those with “mid to low functioning autism.” Why? Because Daniel, to those who split things down those lines, is considered “mid to low functioning,” and to those who split things down those lines consider Stephen to be “high functioning.” I’ve been accused of having nothing but “high functioning” kids because of my expectations and the way I frame their skill sets.

But when you meet them, you can see the types of supports my children need. I don’t even go through a lot of those supports here because I respect them enough to not be so cruel and share their most intimate struggles with the world.… Read more.

Event Planning for Autistics

Published on November 14, 2013 By Melody

One of my new favorite pages on Facebook is Parenting Autistic Children with Love & Acceptance. There’s a lot of great information, but also, you get to ask questions and respond to questions. Since parenting autistic children is a passion for me, I have been getting into answering a lot now that I’m no longer working. It’s pretty awesome to be able to help parents, especially those early in their journey.

Today a question was posed about how autistic parents of autistic kids handle the socialization aspect of parenting. I have to admit, when my kids were toddlers, I was pretty terrible at it.… Read more.

A Place for Everything and Everything in Its Place

Published on September 18, 2013 By Melody

I have been recently following a few different conversations online about raising autistic kids. There has been something that I keep saying no matter what the situation is, that’s being talked about. There is a need for an autistic child to have their own safe space. In our household, we have taken that a step further. Each person has to have their own safe space. I know that in our autistic household (for those who haven’t read this site before, I am also autistic as are both our kids.) this is more a necessity than most households, but I think it stands firm for ANY household, even if there are no kids/people with disabilities.… Read more.

“Because I’m stupid?”

Published on July 25, 2013 By Melody

Tomorrow is the 23rd anniversary of the Americans with Disabilities Act (and my birthday). We are also celebrating the 5 year anniversary of the ADA Amendments Act which was particularly important for the Autistic community. And as far as we’ve come, we have obviously not come far enough.

Today, I listened to 8 young leaders from the Disability Rights Movement speak as Champions of Change at the White House. Many of these people I consider friends and it was truly an honor. But a message kept ringing true. Disability is looked down upon in our country even these many years after the passage of the ADA.… Read more.