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Did you know….

Published on March 31, 2014 By Melody

Did you know…

….tomorrow starts Autism “Awareness” month?

….Wednesday is World Autism Awareness Day?

….that the messages that came out of last week’s prevalence rates are damaging to Autistic people?

….that the messages that will come out in the month to come are even worse?

….that this is usually the month that I ward off Facebook, social media sites, and general autism information all together?

….that I am so happy that I’m no longer working for any autism/autistic organization so don’t have to be exposed to all of the crap at work all day, all night?

The truth is, this month that we are upon is dreaded by most Autistic people.… Read more.

The False Dichotomy – “High” and “Mid-to-Low” Functioning

Published on February 4, 2014 By Melody

I get to be reminded of this quite often. This false dichotomy between those with “high functioning autism” and those with “mid to low functioning autism.” Why? Because Daniel, to those who split things down those lines, is considered “mid to low functioning,” and to those who split things down those lines consider Stephen to be “high functioning.” I’ve been accused of having nothing but “high functioning” kids because of my expectations and the way I frame their skill sets.

But when you meet them, you can see the types of supports my children need. I don’t even go through a lot of those supports here because I respect them enough to not be so cruel and share their most intimate struggles with the world.… Read more.

An Open Letter to Educators

Published on January 21, 2014 By Melody


I know for the most part, most of you went into this profession to educate the next generation of students. You wanted to help them succeed and lead future generations. You work for less than you deserve and are expected to spend more of your personal time and energy and sometimes money to reach the goal of giving students the tools they need to lead productive lives as adults.

But I’m here to tell you, many of you are failing some of your students. You are failing to live up to your end of the bargain with parents and your students.… Read more.


Published on May 4, 2010 By Melody

A month ago we were celebrating the boys’ birthdays. Subsequently, we also had to plan for their yearly IEP meeting. All of those events went well and as planned. Since then though, I have noticed my 5 yr old (the youngest) has become much more impulsive. It’s really been building up. He already has sensory issues, his ASD diagnosis, but it’s becoming ever so clear he is definitely ADHD.

He has no patience. He used to be really good at waiting the 5 minutes for us to stop what we’re doing before attending to his needs. Now he has a hard time waiting more than 30 seconds.  If he doesn’t get what he wants, he lashes out then immediately apologizes.… Read more.

‘Bettering’ Ourselves, Helping Others

Published on January 13, 2010 By Melody

I love being a mother, a wife, and all those things entail. There is also a part of me that says I could be doing ‘more.’ I do this site to give back to a community I see as needing some camaraderie. I’m sure there are some of my visitors who feel the same way.

What are some ways we can better ourselves and give back a little? I think a really big step for those that belong to our specific community is to find a way to bridge a gap. There is a gap between Non-Parent Self-Advocates (ASD non-parent adults), Parent Self- & Child-Advocates (ASD parents of ASD children), and Parent Child-Advocates (NT parents of ASD children).… Read more.