Change – The Achilles Heel of Asperger’s?

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After much discussion with providers, husband and self reflection, I do believe that Change has to be the Achilles’ Heel of Asperger’s and Autism in general. No matter how much we “blend” into society, this one thing will usually be the one thing that disrupts all we have done.

I have done my best to accept change in normal every day life, and tried to adapt so that changes in schedule do not disrupt. I do not keep an hourly schedule for this exact reason. I do keep a daily schedule, as in things I need to do during a day. This ensures everything gets done.

Even a change that I’m welcoming, has turned my life topsy turvy whenever I think about it. We are moving in 2 months. Our family move is for the best of everyone involved and is a much better situation than we are living in now. Yet, the thought keeps me unnerved.

But now what I need to learn is how to deal with change that disrupts even my very simplistic schedule. So I ask those readers I have, what are your suggestions on how to physically deal with change? How do you deal with changes?

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Happy Thanksgiving!

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I’d like to say Happy Thanksgiving to all my American readers. For those that don’t have Thanksgiving, I’d still like to extend to you an invitation to celebrate it. Thanksgiving, I feel, is a very energizing day. It is a day to Give Thanks for all we have. This is something I feel should not be left only to this holiday.

My thoughts for today could and should extend to our normal lives. In some families, they celebrate by everyone around the table saying what they are thankful for. I have to say, I never understood or liked this tradition. Mainly because everyone always tried to outdo the person before them.

Instead, I’d like others to try this. Come up with how they can be thankful for you. I feel as an Aspie, sometimes, I don’t give myself enough credit. I have been told this by those around me. Now, I’m not saying to be selfish and not tell those you love that you’re thankful for them. But it is a good time and sit back to realize what good you have to offer others.

Happy Thanksgiving. My hope is that you are thankful for me and this website.

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Love. Perversate. Obsess.

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Again, taking a page from my personal life. I have, often in life, questioned what it means to “love.” I think it’s very possible to love someone and be on “the spectrum.” I think we all can find a love, whether an object, a person or a ______. And most likely, we will all find at least one love in our life time.

But this week, my husband and I have been talking, and I have been thinking. I doubted whether I loved him, or anyone. I doubted whether or not I knew what love is. But tonight I came to a revelation. I DO love him, though, not in the way I think love should be felt.

I have several “loves.” I happen to really love math. and art. and music. and weather patterns. and movies. and programming. You get the point. Where I seem to have the problem is not that I don’t love the people around me, but that I don’t perversate or obsess over them.

I have in the past had relationships that I did perversate over the person and am quite happy that is not the case with my husband. So when we say we don’t know how to love, I think I, at least, and perhaps even you, should rephrase. I do love others, I just don’t understand that love as well as my obsessions.

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